A Colorado 9 year old is a best-seller with a book about how to talk to girls. Alec Greven said he wrote the book because he noticed a lot of his friends had trouble talking to girls. The advice is simple, straight-forward and almost "duh," but it's not just for 9 year olds.
Taking advice from a 9 year old:
- Comb your hair and don't wear sweats
- Pretty girls are like cars that need a lot of oil. They are coldhearted. Regular-looking girls make better girlfriends
- Don't do flowers and gifts until you are older, like in middle school, because it seems weird in elementary school. Unless you go to a school dance
- Girls get mad when they discover a boy has been trying to date multiple people at once
- Most boys in elementary school can hold on to a girl for only 30 days
- And my favorite: Don't act desperate. Girls don't like desperate boys
The kid recommends that if you have a crush on a girl, you have to get the girl to like you by showing you have some sort of skill. Neil Strauss, a grown-up, in his book, The Game, written to help grown-ups pick up other grown-ups, calls this demonstrating value. His professional pick-up artists do magic tricks and play mind games with their prospective targets.
The kids makes an easier and less sinister suggestion, like playing soccer.
As for actually talking to girls, Alec suggests starting light. In an interview on Amazon.com he said:
The first word you want to say in a conversation is "hi." If she says "hi" back, you're off to a good start. If she doesn't say hi back, you know you're in trouble.
You can see a few pages from his book here, or you can buy it. I didn't.